Is Going Green Making Your Spouse See Red?
How is your marriage/relationship handling your green conversion?
Short of two eco minded meeting and marrying. It seems that many households have one spouse who starts to become greener or healthier and drags the other along for the ride.
Dude happily embraced my last vehicle, the hybrid Lexus RH400 – which I loved but no longer worked for us during the double stroller, double car seat days which are fast drawing to a close (is that possible!). Enter the mini-van. Convincing Dude that vinegar is an effective germ killing substitute for Lysol is a tougher sell. Getting him to carry his own bottle of water, not happening (yet). When he came home with a gallon of Pantene Pro V, I almost returned it – stopping myself – thinking it would be best interest of our marriage.
I could go on… and on… and on… sharing my personal favorite; my husband calling me by my mother’s first name! What is even more frustrating is that he does this without getting informed and I write a blog on the subject matter!
The question becomes how to balance a commitment to living greener or healthier without running off your mate. They did take you for better or worse, but may not have bargained for flax meal and fair trade.
What impact does making green changes have on a marriage?
Sometimes the greener spouse gets excited about a new idea, we run around with a sledge hammer making changes, meanwhile others in our family were quite content with the old way of doing business.
Even worse, we’re right. We feel extremely justified in our position! How can there be an argument? While we may be “right”, nothing will kill a marriage faster than taking that position! A marriage has it’s own set of rules, negotiated over time by each couple. Steamroll your spouse one too many times and you might find they tune you out completely. Needless to say this does not make for a happy union.
- What compromises are you making to keep your spouse on the greenwagon? Are they moving along with you or resisting and backtracking?
- How are you coping with their reaction?
- How are you modifying your green/detoxing/healthy feeding efforts to accommodate you mate?
- What solutions have you found that work for your entire family?
- What have you found you can’t get cooperation on, no matter how hard you try?
Please share your stories and examples!
Share with me via email tania@purenaturaldiva.com or using the comments section below!
Do you know a couple that has split up over this issue? Please let them know about this piece – I’d be saddened, but would like to document some of these stories to learn & teach from the experiences of others.
Check out Dude & I on ABC Eyewitness News tackling this very issue!
The Great “ShoeCycle”
By Tania Reuben
The title has SHOE in it so if you have a X chromosome and are reading this, chances are we have your attention!
We’ve all done it. Spent way to much money on a fabulous pair of shoes. Gotten them home, worn them, they hurt, worn them again, they still hurt. Couldn’t find the right outfit for them – I’ve heard rumors of such happenings.
Now with most shoes when this happens, we pass them on to goodwill or a friend… but we all have the shoes we hold on to… we just can’t part with them.
What if someone else had a pair they coveted in their closet that wouldn’t hurt your feet…? What if they could find you? We have dream, a dream where all coveted, fabulous, toe pinching, too narrow shoes find new homes on the feet that will be perfect for them.
Do you share this dream?
HOW IT WORKS:
1. Go to the PND Facebook Fan page and add a picture of your coveted – unwearable on your feet – shoes to the ShoeCycle album. In the caption include all the important details, brand, size, why they don’t work for you, to narrow, to small… Check back from time to time (say hi while you’re visiting!) see if the magic pair that is right for you has been added to the album.
2. Find a pair in the album that you just have to have? Tag them with your name.
3. A “Cycle” is complete when each person giving a pair of shoes will receive a pair of fabulous, dying to be taken out of the closet shoes. This could take 2 people or it could take 20… who knows… but how much fun will it be to find out!
4. When you are in a completed “Cycle”, email your address to the person who has tagged your shoes (photo).
5. Ship your shoes to the person that tagged your shoe (photo).
6. (Finger’s Crossed) Welcome a pair of new shoes into your world!
Is it possible that we can find homes for all the dazzling shoes just dying to be worn out… hoping to be picked… night after night… day after day. We’re not sure… but we’re doing are part to represent these shoes. One day at a time, one shoe at a time, spreading the word on behalf of neglected left behind shoes everywhere.
The Fine Print
Participate at your own risk. PND will not be held responsible for shoes not sent or received. This is a fun idea, please don’t participate if you don’t plan on following through.
We will not intervene or get in the middle of any SHOENANNIGANS!
Top Dropper’s December
By Tania Reuben
Thank you so much to everyone who dropped by during the month of December! Sorry it took a little while to get this up!
The following folks worked some overtime to make it happen, each of them visiting every day! Thank you for your loyalty!
Note: Scrolling through PND content will “highlight” hyperlinks.
Vanilla Seven
Rambling Stuff
One World Realty
Art By Paul Baines
Jean sQuared
Business Sphere
On A Lighter Note
The One Minute Guide
Beaded Tail
Everything Has A ReasonWhen you get a chance check them out!
Thanks to each one of you! Hope to see you again in December!
Using Random.org Top Jokes will also receive 500 EC as extra thanks!
Question: If you know how I can see more than my top 10 droppers, can you please leave me a comment with instructions! I have other visitors that I’d love to give some link love to as well and I don’t know where to find the information… so if I can figure it out next month, this list can grow a little bit!
